She says…
Religion in relationships can be a difficult thing, especially if you’re in a serious relationship. Some relationships end with one or the other partner converting to the religion of their significant other. But why does that even have to happen if the two are in love to begin with? It seems like love is a funny thing in that sense.
If the two are in love to begin with then why does having a different religion have to matter so much. I can’t say that I’ve ever been with someone who really cared so much about having a different religion. Or I can’t say I’ve been someone who was really religious, it was never an issue in my life yet.
But I know there are plenty of people out there who will only marry or date someone under their same faith, and I don’t think I’ll ever understand that. If you love someone religion shouldn’t mattter. But today, it controls many people that, that is all they care about.
However, in a relationship converting to the religion of their significant other can make or break a lot couples, which is unfortunate. But I don’t get why it has to be like that. Bottom line, if two people love each other enough, then the different religions won’t be an issue. I guess it just comes down to how strong the love is between the two partners.
– Savannah Mul
He says…
They say that people who are in love compromise constantly. It’s all about making the other one happy. Two people become one. And stuff like that. So what happens when religion comes into play?
I was once with a religious girl. Actually, she was the Pastor’s daughter and we were in high school. I was barely 15 when the subject of church had actually become something I thought about. She told me we could never be together if I wasn’t a firm believer in God. The thing is, I believe in God and didn’t feel like I needed a certain religion to justify that. Needless to say, I was “with” her for four years and truthfully, my faith has grown. But it had nothing to do with her or my relationship. It was me who decided to pray and title myself of a Christian.
So all I’m trying to say is this: at the end of the day, if you choose to be faithful and a person of God then it should be because you genuinely want to; not because your better half forced it upon you.
Once again, it comes down to compromise. Find a balance and respect each other. The reality is that not every couple will work it out when it comes to having different religions and that’s fine. Then there’s couples with different beliefs and can make it work as well. It’s best to figure this out early because for a lot of people, it’s make or break and that’s just the way it is.
– Jon Moreno
