I’ve been hooking up with this guy for about a month and something has got to change. He has already mentioned to me about a week ago that he isn’t looking for a relationship and just wants to continue doing whatever we’re doing and keep it like that.
But I can’t do this anymore, I really like this guy and when he brings up that he is studying with another girl for a group project, I get really jealous. I have no right to since we aren’t exclusively together.
I’m holding on to the idea of him and me because I hope that something will eventually happen. But with each day, it’s getting less and less likely and with each hook up, I get more and more attached and he doesn’t understand that. I’m not sure what I have to say to him, all I know is that I want to be with him, ah sigh.
Hanging on the hook ups
Dear Hanging on the hook ups,
This happens more often than you think, and you better ask him what his definition of “studying” is for group projects. If he doesn’t want to be in a relationship but still hangs around a lot of girls, this guy could be playing all of you.
I know you have an attachment invested in him, especially after having sex, but if he doesn’t plan on giving you what you deserve, you have to be strong and step far away from him darling! If he is blatantly telling you that he doesn’t want a relationship right now, move on! Don’t bother trying to get something that won’t happen.
He sounds like a player to me and there are many other lovely, attractive guys out there that will fulfill all your needs. Put distance in between you and this player, stay away, and don’t pick up his booty calls! It’ll be hard at first to completely cut off contact with someone you like, but in the end, you’ll be stronger and happy you did.
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