Dear Dr. Strangelove,
With the end of the semester approaching my boyfriend and I, who attended the same college, are now moving on to graduate school. We’ve been together throughout our entire four years of college. I’m actually going to graduate school in New York, and he’s going to school in California. You can’t get any farther than that. We always planned to get married, but our career goals changed, and maintaining a long-distance relationship will be so hard. I don’t know how I will be able to sync into a routine without him when we’ve been together for so long.
—It’s Been Nice
Dear “It’s Been Nice,”
Long-distance relationships are a timeless topic, and everyone has their own way of dealing with them. Some people make it work, and some people don’t. It’s a matter of what you’re goals are and how you will work on them; together or alone. Though you will miss each other greatly, it sounds like you might be more overwhelmed with the slap in the face of a new life, which you will be facing without that comfort person. I think you should first get a taste of what it will be like to adjust independently in a new city, then worry about missing your guy. Maybe you guys can have your two years to “do you,” stay in touch, and pick up right where you left off. It’s a challenge you’re going to have to face, and you just have to have the confidence in yourself to pursue a new phase in your life. Surround yourself with constructive days and a ton of friends. But no matter what happens just remember, “every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.”
—Dr. Strangelove
