Dear Dr. Strangelove,
For the first time in a while, I actually have feelings for someone. I’m going to be cliché and say it’s not just a crush; I really have feelings for him. With my luck, of course, he has a girlfriend. But it’s not just an unrequited affection that I have. He is always looking to “hang out” and texts me constantly. He never makes moves on me though. His girlfriend is studying abroad in Australia, and he basically acts like he doesn’t even date her, yet he claims they’ll be together after college. I don’t know if he is trying to work his way into my pants, or if he is really conflicted between women. I don’t want to be that second girl. What should I do?
-Crazed and Confused
Dear Crazed and Confused,
Whatever the reason is for his actions, if he won’t break up with his girlfriend to pursue you, how can you see a future with him? Nevermind the fact that he seems like the kind of person who jumps from girl to girl. How long have they been together? If you see it as one of those fluke things where he happened to have a girlfriend and just fell for you, then so be it. Talk about it. But it may be that he is trying to fill a void because his girlfriend is not here. He just wants companionship. And don’t get caught up on the idea of “he’s the only one I liked in a while.” It’s too idealistic—there will be others.