Dear Dr. Strangelove,
Me and my boyfriend of three years recently got engaged. We’ve had a wonderful relationship thus far, and I plan to keep it that way. The wedding is set for next spring, and I couldn’t be more excited. My fiancé’s brother, however, decided to confess his unrequited love for me on New Year’s, as he made the proposition to be honest about his feelings. Needless to say, he didn’t tell my fiancé. This, of course, came as such a shock to me. I didn’t know what to say. I obviously don’t feel the same way (I would hope not), but I don’t know how to handle this without potentially ruining my marriage because of some deceiving secret.
-Fretful Fiancé
Dear Fretful Fiancé
I can’t imagine a secret or anything but honesty is a good way to start a marriage (or any relationship for that matter). Although it probably wouldn’t go over well with your fiancé, you don’t want the truth to come out years down the road and have it blow over in your face if your fiancé found out you kept a secret like that from him, even though you did nothing wrong. This is an issue that taps into more relationships than yours, of course. This is a problem your fiancé’s brother should work out with your fiancé. I would talk to your fiancé’s brother first to straighten things out and explain to him why this is obviously wrong, and it’s something that he has to deal with. Then go from there.
-Dr. Strangelove
