Dear Dr. Strangelove,
I met this guy about a month ago. He’s not just any guy to me, though. We truly do have a deep connection (and a very strong physical bond). Call it infatuation, but I feel the best I’ve ever felt in a long time with him. He treats me like a queen, and we are perfect together. Here’s the bad part, though. He recently told me he had a wife. WHAT!? The worst part is, it doesn’t change the way I feel about him. But now I know a serious future with him isn’t possible. I don’t know how to shake him off. -Hopelessly Devoted
Dear Hopelessly Devoted,
This is something that is obviously never going to work out unless he somehow becomes madly in love with you and divorces his wife. And even then, wouldn’t you worry about him doing the same thing to you in the end? It doesn’t bother you that he was unfaithful to a woman he made a commitment to? Does he have kids too? Whether what you had was just infatuation or really something special (you only met him a month ago), he probably has other secrets in story and you have to come to terms with the reasons for your feelings. Maybe you’re clinging to him be- cause of the lack of something else in a past relationship, or maybe you associate him with the idea of a perfect man. But the fact is, you can’t cling on to something that is bound to fail. To shake this off, figure out what you really want. -Dr. Strangelove
