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Breakups 101

SIMONE VIRZICopy Editor

Dealing with a breakup can be hard, especially when it seems like the radio is only playing sappy love songs. But it isn’t the end of the world, even if you were the one that got dumped. I know it can be difficult to accept, especially if you liked the person you were dating; been there, done that. But you’ll live, I promise. So wipe those tears away because life goes on.

Phone Patrol
Chances are, you’ll probably be tempted to talk to your ex. If the breakup happened abruptly, it can be hard to accept the idea of no longer communicating with the same person you were recently kissing. Instead of sending 1,000 pointless texts, simply don’t text. I suggest taking their number out of your phone since it will be harder to get in touch with them, and it will keep you from becoming the annoying ex.

Drunk Dialing/Texting
Just because you’re newly single does not mean you have to drown your sorrows with alcohol. For starters, alcohol has a lot of calories, and the last thing you need to do is get fat. Secondly, if you’re in a bad mood and start drinking, chances are your mood is only going to get worse. There’s also a good chance you’ll miss your ex and want to talk to them, hence drunk dialing and texting. Save yourself the embarrassment. I love drunk texts as much as the next person, but in this situation it’s never cute. You’re only going to make yourself look desperate, and you’re not. You’re too good for that!

Save the Rebounds for Dwight Howard
OK, your confidence may not be at an all-time high, but don’t sell yourself short. Rebounding may sound like the best idea ever, but it’s not (animal print is). Hooking up with someone you don’t care about to boost your self-esteem is just dumb. One of my high school friends had to have a guy in her life, and I rolled my eyes every time she mentioned a new name. In the end, all you’re doing is looking needy. Instead of jumping in bed with someone two days after breaking up, give yourself some time to heal. Hey, being single isn’t that bad!

Revenge
Tears can turn to anger after breaking up. However, that is never an excuse to get revenge on your ex. For instance, when my ex and I were over, I was incredibly tempted to key his car. One of my friends laughed as she told me it wasn’t worth it; that his car was such a piece of crap and he wouldn’t even notice if I did it. She had a valid point, so I didn’t. Looking back, I made the right decision because if I had keyed his car, I would have been stooping to his level. And you know what? I’m better than that. However, if you find it absolutely necessary to tell all of your ex’s friends he or she has herpes, deny, deny, deny.

Put Down the Cheesecake!
You’re upset, I get it. But that is never an excuse to stuff your face. You aren’t going to feel better after consuming 5,000 calories. The only thing you’re going to accomplish is expanding your waist, and that will make you even more upset. Instead of excessively eating, get your butt to the gym! Besides, working out is good for you. It releases endorphins, which will put you in a good mood. I personally love the Cardio and Kick class at the Fitness Center. It’s like boot camp, but it’s an awesome way to release stress. Not only will you look better, you’ll feel better too.

Chin Up!
After a breakup, you may just want to stay in bed all day watching “The Notebook.”  When it’s time to face the world, you don’t care if you look like you’re homeless. It’s time to care! Swap sad romantic movies with comedies and take a freaking shower. Look your best when you feel your worst. Sometimes you need to fake confidence, and that’s OK; no one feels like a movie star all the time. But when you know you look good, you may have an extra bounce in your step. Besides, you never know who’s watching you; maybe it’s someone worth looking good for!

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