Dear Dr. Strangelove,
Me and this guy have been friends for two years now. When I first met him, I hated him; he was cocky, arrogant and your typical “player.” I gave him crap for it, and being the only girl who didn’t fall at his feet, I guess I was a sort of a challenge to him. I grew to get to know him more, as did he, and we got to be pretty good friends. We both love to party, so he’d call me on the weekends, or I’d call him, and we’d meet up, bring our friends, and hang out. It was extremely casual; there was no sexual interaction between us whatsoever. We’d talk about our dating issues, and he was always there for me, like a big brother. I would sleep over at his house all the time; he’d insist I sleep in his bed and he’d sleep on the couch. He never made any moves on me, and even made me breakfast in the morning. After about a year, I really considered the guy one of my best friends, and he would tell people that I was his best girl friend. But last week we were drunk and ended up sleeping together. How do I deal with this situation?
– Befuddled Friend F*%ker
Dear Befuddled Friend F*%ker,
You are his best friend, the person he’s most comfortable with and I’m sure the feeling is mutual. First off you need figure out how you feel about the situation. Was the sex good and if it was do you think this could turn into a deeper relationship if you were both willing to go that route?
It’s not uncommon for members of the opposite (and same) sex to have a physical relationship
if there already is a attraction between them. Whether or not this line should be crossed depends on many circumstances and in your case it was a bunch o’ booze.
Next you need to talk to him. Let him know where you’re coming from and how you feel about what happened between the two of you. If you don’t things could get awkward and it might end up affecting your relationship as friends. See how he feels and take it from there. If you both want to take it to the next level go for it. If not, don’t sleep with each other again and JUST BE FRIENDS. No matter how hard you try it’s hard to let the physical part of a friendship,
especially sexual, get in the way of the plutonic connection you already have.