Jasmine Wilborne, Staff Writer:
After class, Catholic schoolgirls are sometimes stereotyped as being wild promiscuous chicks who bounce from bed to bed with the ease of a stone skip¬ping water. Pre-marital sex has become a cheap commodity wrapped in shiny, colorful condoms easily purchasable by 13-year-old boys who still believe in cooties. There’s something wrong with this. I was a Catholic school girl and have not engaged in any wild orgies. I have kept my hands to myself and here’s why.
Your first time is like cutting out your heart, placing it in a jar and giving it to that one person forever. Sex is the most intimate activity any two people can engage in. It isn’t your grandma’s kiss. It’s much more. One day, I will stand exposed, vulnerable and naked before my hubby, and we will experi¬ence an embrace of intense sensual and psychological explosions. This singular physical moment, fleeting in pleasure, lasting in effect, will bind us together emotionally. Because we will partake in each other’s pleasure and solidify our trust through the flesh, we will be unit¬ed. In essence we will say, “Here I am. Receive only me and I will receive only you!” I don’t want to say these words to anyone but my husband. Condoms are 99 percent effective in preventing STD’s but 1 percent effective in pre¬venting emotional attachment. Save yourself.
Most relationships are unpredict¬able, mistakes in hindsight and end in heartbreak. I will wait until marriage to have sex because: I am right now, immature and incapable of handling the great responsibility that’s packed up in sex. Instead, I will go back to the original purpose of dating which is: interviewing men for the job of spouse. Dating is not a toy but a tool intended to help two people “imagine” what a mar¬riage would look like. Besides, if your boo truly loved you, your finger would be embellished in gold, a universal sign that says, “You’re mine.”
Believe in the wisdom of the Baker. If sex is a cake, God is the baker that wrote the recipe. Recipes, like rules, prevent us from messing up and hurt¬ing ourselves or others. I think that God made sex to be more than something that feels good. He made this recipe for the most intense human intimacy pos¬sible, just to be enjoyed by two commit¬ted people through marriage. Ignoring the recipe for great, pure and harmless sex can result in regret if you break up, trust issues if you are cheated on, sexual addiction due to exploitation, physical damages like STDs, various emotional damages, physical abuses such as rape, unplanned pregnancy which can lead to abortion or baby mama drama. The risks of premarital sex are endless. But they are limited if you save yourself.
I’m not naïve; I know that a lot of you have passed by your “first time”. But I think that there is still hope for a new start. Regardless of your past, the God I believe in meets us where we are. He takes what we’ve messed up and transforms it into something new. You can still turn back and start again. Follow the recipe, trust the Baker: Everyone is not doing it; save yourself for marriage.
Points of virginity
Jasmine Wilborne, Staff Writer: