Bullying is not just in high school
Sarah Shelton – Features Editor
So far, this semester has been rough. I want to remind everyone that kindness and understanding for each other can go a long way.
Lately, I’ve felt alone on campus. I have some friends, but I constantly see different groups of friends always together around campus and I feel I have no place here.
I’m a bit of a workaholic— so I am typically busy. Still, there are events on campus I am dying to go to, or just to even have dinner at Connecticut Hall, and then I am like, “well, I don’t want to go alone.” So I typically end up snacking on chips in my dorm while watching television.
Coming into freshman year, I was actually one of those students with a big group of friends. We all lived in Neff Hall and were friends in high school.
After a lot of thinking, I let most of them go for my mental health—which I feel needs to be more normalized: respecting people, but not hanging out.
But sometimes there are situations where you are no longer respected.
One day I was walking around with my best friend of four years, who happens to be my ex-boyfriend, at a poster sale. I noticed his friends, two of which he only knew for a few days, laughing and pointing at me from the checkout line. He acknowledged it after I pointed it out, but ignored it due to lack of care.
Since that day, I cannot stop thinking about how there is probably “high school bullying” that no one talks about. In that moment, I felt like I was receiving the bullying I missed out on in high school.
Later, he told me they were laughing because he was with me.
After this, we didn’t talk much; however, one night, I texted him how I felt about everything. I have always been transparent with him, which he has continuously said is okay, and I had to text him about work anyway. I was ignored, then he and his friends began pushing the “she’s crazy” stereotype. So, I stopped.
I stopped trying to express my feelings to people who do not care. I wish, as my best friend, he talked to me, instead of listening to opinions of people who do not know me, but that is life. It sucks when a friendship ends and to feel ganged up on, but friendships do not always work out and it is okay to talk about.
But all this started because of immature bullying tactics.
According to BMC Psychology, “while a majority of bullying peaks in middle school and subsides by high school, research indicates that bullying may never completely go away.”
I talked to a few students who also feel bullied. Some feel left out. Others get made fun of for their looks or what they are into, such as Pokémon and K-Pop. I even talked to some students who have similar problems with their friends not acting like friends.
Communication is important, but empathy is key. If they cannot put themself in someone else’s shoes, learn from my mistakes. Block and move on, which I have now done.
Bullies certainly do not care about your mental health.
The university does a lot for students’ mental health, such as counseling, but speaking about this topic is important. People are still bullied at our age.
Of course, I do not want to make my problems public, especially where my professors and classmates can see, but the amount of people on campus who feel alone, left out or bullied is surprising. I want people to know they are not alone.
I am not going to share more about my situation to respect the people involved and I’m not going to engage with them anymore. This editorial is my closure.
I will definitely be jamming to Olivia Rodrigo’s song, “Good 4 u,” for a while—joking, sorry I’m a music nerd.
My point is, you never know what somebody is going through. Always be friendly. As Selena Gomez once said, “kill em’ with kindness.”